Facebook is the new online dating site for men?

Y'all know that my favorite topic to talk about is relationships. So when I get the opportunity to ask some guy friends a bunch of questions, I take it as a "research experiment." I've found I've got a lot of interesting information from this. This experience is not so different.

So I got some really good insight this weekend on the way that guys think/creep/strategize when it comes to women.

I talked to my friend...let's just call him muscles for now. He is very attractive and obviously has a good body. However, he is kind of out there where in it comes to social skills and has never had a girlfriend. Lets throw it out there though that I was also talking to my two other friends who have both had successful relationships.

So muscles started talking about how he wants a girlfriend, so I asked him what his strategy is. He immediately told me that he's not into online dating. He doesn't want to pay for a girlfriend and finds the whole concept awkward and weird.

He started talking about his version of online dating, Facebook.

I love Facebook. I've used it to stalk ex boyfriends, co-workers, random guys that I met at the bar, old high school flames, etc. Never have I ever used facebook to try and scope out single guys that I have no connection to.

Well, muscles has a unique strategy of using Facebook to try and meet his future wife. Muscles started describing that he first starts out with a girl he knows, looks through her pictures, sees an attractive girl, goes to her profile, looks at her pictures, finds a girl who really catches his eye and then stalks her a little bit. Even though they have no mutual friends, no connections, he friend requests her.

Have you ever gotten a friend request from a random dude? I have gotten maybe 1 or 2 and usually ignore them especially if we have no mutual friends.

Think this is creepy? I'm not done yet.

If a girl has their profile on private where he can only see her profile picture. He will type in her last name on the search hoping a relative such as a mom or sibling will pop up who is not so cautious with their privacy settings so he can stalk them and find out more information about said girl.

He has his eye on this one girl who he has been carefully stalking on facebook for 6 months. He has not friend requested her and knows nothing about her. He has been working up the nerve to friend request or message her for months. What would you do if some random guy messaged you and said "hey I saw your picture and think your attractive...wanna go on a date" I think most of us would think that's creepy.

My advice to muscles was very honorable. I told him to lie. Make up a story about how he thinks they met at the bar or something. If she answers and says sorry wrong person you say "oh i'm so sorry I feel so dumb...you are very beautiful though' even that is freaking corny and makes me so sick to even type out.

So as muscles was giving me this information, my wheels started turning. Are all guys like this? I got feedback from the other guys that were around and they said they do the same thing sometimes but never have had enough nerve to actually facebook friend request or message a girl they didn't know. They don't want to be perceived as creepy.

Ding ding ding....that's because it is kind of creepy.

I really don't know if this method would ever work. I'm trying to think of how I would react to an attractive random guy messaging me on facebook. At first, I'd probably be flattered, but then after a few days of intense analyzing (which you know I would do), I'd probably decide that the fact that he messaged me on facebook made me sick....

What are your thoughts on this??? Has anyone ever randomly messaged you on facebook? Would you respond? Do you think this is creepy or totally normal for guys to do?

Feedback would be appreciated!

C