Monday, January 7, 2013

When you're looking or when you least expect it?

These past couple of months have been the epitome of unventful when it comes to dating.  There are a lot of reasons that run through my head when I think of why I haven't been on a date in six months. Yes, I said six months.  Gasp all you want.  I've already gotten horrified looks from my friends who are about to tie the knot or serisouly committed.

The reasons could be as follows:

I'm really busy and have been traveling a lot lately?
It hasn't been meant to work out yet?
The one is still out there?
I'm learning to be more indpendent?

Typing out those half ass reasons make me feel like a joke. I can't even go on with these reasons. I sound like one big cliche.  Reading back over them they sound a lot more like excuses than anything else.

Don't get me wrong, I want to fall in love and have the fairy tale ending, but more importantly I want some excitement.   A lot of first dates, horror stories, great sex, bad kissers, freakshows, dick pics....SOMETHING.....ANYTHING to relieve the boredom.  I've been sharing my frustrations of boredom with a lot of my friends lately and I always seem to get the same response.  "C, when you least expect it, you'll find him.  It's good that you aren't looking right now.  You need this time for yourself."

I'm pretty sure I've written about this before so forgive me if I sound like a broken record but can we really STOP looking altogether and expect love to show up on our doorstep? Or do we have to actively seek a relationship. Pairing our first name with the last name of every elidgable bachelor we meet?

I don't know the answer. All I'm certain of is that timing is everything.  Timing and attitude.  I can look back on a lot of my failed relationships and know that the timing was not right.  I wasn't ready. They weren't ready.  Someone wasn't willing to give up or give certain things that now would be negociable.  Attitude is also important.  I think positivity is key and believing in positive and healthy relationships will help me find that person.  It's just finding motivation to keep a positive attitude when the timing isn't right.

Now I'm rambling.

Trying to get back in the game,



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